This is often associated with greater negative emotional reactions to new situations. Thomas and Chess examined 9 key dimensions of behavior in newborns. Have greater impulsivity and are less able to control their emotional response- --ADHD --mood disorders such as bipolar disorder Have greater challenges in handling new situations and prefer repetitive routines- --those with autism spectral disorder --sensory processing disorder --anxiety disorders … such as obsessive compulsive disorder Difficulties with Abstract thinking and Perspective taking Abstract thinking is the ability to imagine that which is not directly perceived by the senses.
They know that pigs cannot fly They will get angry … when pushed about the concept … because they cannot imagine that pigs can fly. What other people are thinking and feeling must be imagined. That may not come naturally to certain individuals. When perspective taking does not come naturally, it makes it more likely to misinterpret others, which can lead to greater frustration and meltdowns.
Inflexibility Many individuals can be extremely inflexible in how they handle the daily challenges of life. Part of this may be related to trouble with abstract thinking. When it is hard to use the imagination it may be harder to solve new problems. Example is wrong driving directions … a street is not where the directions show it should be … If have difficulty with abstract thinking could be stuck at this point.
It would be difficult to imagine what to do next. Frustration would grow leading to a possible meltdown. Without the use of abstract thinking - may not think to ask for directions. Then they get overly upset as if they were in a life threatening situation. These individuals are continually confronted with problematic events and cannot cope. We need to know how to calm meltdowns. We need to be able to anticipate meltdowns — by anticipating and preparing for triggering events. Apr 10, Courtney rated it really liked it.
Practical and helpful guide, especially if you have neuro-divergent children.
No More Meltdowns : Positive Strategies for Managing and Preventing Out-of-Control Behavior
Was recommended to us by the psychologist we see for one of our children. May 20, Kelly rated it really liked it Shelves: book-reviews , netgalley , non-fiction-self-help , ebook , non-fiction. Although published in , the information remains applicable today in its approach to dealing with children who experience emotional outbursts. The author has developed a four-step approach to preventing the out of control behavior. His book is based on his evaluation of research on the function of brain cells with challenges abstract thinking. He explains how adjusting ones expectations can help develop and maintain a positive relationship with the child.
Before we can develop and maintain a positive relationship with our child we must address some key issues. Feb 14, Pierian rated it it was amazing. I love this book because it's smart, succinct, compassionate, and highly readable for busy parents and teachers. Baker's strategies focus on addressing root causes of behavior problems without placing blame on either children or adults. It's all about doing what works to help everybody be functional and happy!
Jun 06, Cat rated it it was amazing. Though my days of working with autistic spectrum children is done, I think this book will be a godsend to those who do have to deal with them.
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Really informative and worth a read. Feb 15, Caryn added it Shelves: special-needs. A great book with helpful information on how to prevent and reduce the number and intensity of meltdowns. Jan 19, Tim rated it really liked it Shelves: non-fiction. A book with reasonable explanations and solution approaches to helping children deal with frustrations. Dec 06, Monica K.
au.ygaleluh.tk Cochran rated it really liked it. A good collection of ways for parents and other caregivers to stay connected and resourceful with their children during a meltdown. Oct 05, Karla Winick-Ford rated it it was amazing. Some new strategies and techniques to try out- good explanation of why triggers lead to meltdowns and how to avoid the triggers. Mar 22, Dawn rated it liked it Shelves: asperger. Having read several of Jed Baker's books, I held off on reading this one, knowing that the others had been excellent, but wanting to see what useful information this one would have to offer.
The best section in it for me was the explanation on brain regions, fight or flight response and reptilian brains. An excellent, simple, explanation, it made a great deal of sense. The other stuff in the book This is not the fault of the book itself, but its intended audience. It doesn't appea Having read several of Jed Baker's books, I held off on reading this one, knowing that the others had been excellent, but wanting to see what useful information this one would have to offer.
It doesn't appear to include how to teach children self-regulation skills, so much as monitoring your own read: parents' behavior, setting up a behavioral diary to figure out why meltdowns are occurring, and advice on picky eaters, bed time, disorganization, etc. Oddly, advice that might have appeared in Baker's other books about autism -- a need for organizational planning assistance -- is not mentioned here. Good for parents. For readers of Baker's other excellent social skills book, you might find something useful here, but it assumes parents might already know skills and possibly only need reminders regarding them.
Jan 16, Kimberly rated it really liked it Shelves: non-fiction. This is a great parenting book. I learned many of these techniques in workshops but it is great to have them summarized in a book. One of my favorite concepts is that at some point it doesn't matter if a child is melting down as a public demonstration or because they are incapable of dealing with the situation. Regardless, when a child has frequent meltdowns, it is time for teaching new skills, restructuring and showing compassion rather than time for harsh discipline.
And the examples at the end This is a great parenting book. And the examples at the end are very encouraging for exhausted parents with little creativity to devote to solving problems, examples for common tantrum-causing situations like dragging mornings, clean up, homework, etc.
Mar 16, Allison Fetch rated it it was amazing. This book really hit it on the head with my son's meltdown issues. There were a lot more specific suggestions than I anticipated being included in the book and I have already started implementing a few ideas. I will need to go back and read certain sections again in order to pick up more ideas. I loved how the author used real life anecdotes of real children and their families to illustrate each point.
He did an excellent job of citing research his own or that of others and presenting it and p This book really hit it on the head with my son's meltdown issues. A fantastic read for anyone with a child on the spectrum, or with sensory integration issues. Apr 18, Sarah rated it really liked it.
Many of the parenting books I have read seem unrealistic in application. Baker, however, has simply and logically presented what seems like a very reasonable plan in dealing with misbehavior. Emphasizing the importance of consistency, and addressing multiple avenues of recourse, I felt like his approach was something that any parent can implement.
Some of the situations ring very true in our home, and I am looking forward to using his process in reducing meltdowns and tantrums in our home. Jun 06, Jenny rated it really liked it Shelves: autism , work , own. Recommended for: therapists or parents who like their ABA with a little attachment parenting. One of the biggest things the families I work with struggle with is separating the "can't" from the "won't".
This very short, easily digestible book puts forth no revolutionary ideas, but it does help caregivers, teachers, and professionals identify possible reasons for the "can't," as well as steps to address it. Jul 13, Sherry rated it liked it Shelves: This book was given to me by my son's counselor. It has step-by-step instructions for cooling off a tantrum while it's happening, and then guides you through training your child to not have tantrums.
It approaches almost every conceivable situation with individual methods that follow a basic formula. I have had a few successful situations following this book. I think it has good basics as long as the parent is willing to follow through. May 12, Penny Griffin rated it did not like it. I was overall disappointed with this book. Most of the "strategies" discussed really seemed vey much like common sense.
Pretty much none of the suggestions can be applied to my son who is non verbal autistic. There seems to be a definite lack of any books that focus on helping kids like mine and so I guess I shouldn't have expected this book to be any different. I can't have the kind of conversations with my son that the book refers to in every scenerio and example. Jun 30, Lisa Ahn rated it liked it Shelves: parenting.
I picked up a few new effective strategies, especially the idea of breaking down tasks like trying new foods into smaller components. The book does have a quick, easy format, so it's a good option for adding tools to that meltdown toolbox. Dec 13, Heidi rated it liked it Shelves: heidi-books-read-in , parenting , non-fiction. I liked some of the specific strategies recommended. I didn't like that he says that if rewards and punishments aren't working, then you need a new strategy, but then goes on to use rewards and punishments as part of the new strategy.
I have read in numerous other sources that research shows rewards and punishments are countereffective. Jul 30, Faith rated it really liked it. A worthy read. Provides a great framework for behavior management. I am particularly supportive of the bottom line: de-escalating a meltdown should be in an emergency plan. Once that occurs, it's time to make a change. Apr 03, Amy rated it really liked it. Great book on dealing with meltdowns and other behaviors. Fabulous strategies and management techniques. Author also very funny and makes it an enjoyable read. Saw author at conference, incredible speaker.
He has been in the field for over 20 yrs. Aug 16, Amanda rated it really liked it. This book is great for those parents of children who have special needs, whether they are language barriers, autism spectrum disorders, or other needs. Jun 14, Pam rated it liked it. I realize that I can be more planful in avoiding toddler tantrums.
Feb 11, Charlene rated it really liked it Shelves: asperger-syndrome. It also was a good reassurance that the meltdowns were not the fault of the parent. Sep 29, Shannon rated it liked it Shelves: read-kids-family-academic. Good book for parents wanting some basic advice on how to structure a new behavior plan.
This could translate into giving kids more warning that a task is required of them, or structuring problematic activities in ways that reduce the likelihood of a tantrum. Join our list and be among the first to know when we publish new articles. Get useful news and insights right in your inbox. Dickstein notes, for his age and his particular level of maturity. It means separating the unwanted tantrum response from other issues, such as compliance with parental requests. And second, by reducing the likelihood of a tantrum response, you are also taking away the opportunity for reinforcement of that response.
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Fewer tantrums now means…fewer tantrums later. There are lots of very specific protocols to help parents respond consistently, in ways that will minimize tantrum behavior later. They have in common the starting point that parents resist the temptation to end the tantrum by giving the child what he wants when he tantrums. Attention is withheld from behavior you want to discourage, and lavished instead on behaviors you want to encourage: when a child makes an effort to calm down or, instead of tantruming, complies or proposes a compromise. As Dr. You may need to teach techniques for working through problems, break them down step by step for kids who are immature or have deficits in this kind of thinking and communication.
And you need to model the kind of negotiation you want your child to learn. Being calm and clear about behavioral expectations is important because it helps you communicate more effectively with a child. Lopes says. Both you and your child need to build what Dr. Join them. Follow ChildMindInst. Get our email? Was this helpful?